This week (April 1), I crossed the half-century mark of life. It doesn’t seem possible because some memories from long ago – growing up, high school, college, dating Jane – are so vivid. And that includes being at my dad’s 50th birthday party! As I pause and reflect, I’m thankful and hopeful. I’m thankful for the life I’ve led and that I’ve made it this far. Many wonderful people don’t get this many years on earth. I’m hopeful for many more years and to be able to enjoy them in good health.As this day has been approaching, I’ve looked back on my life and would like to share a few things I believe may help you be more successful in your life. I realize success can be defined many different ways so I’ll tell you mine. It’s based on the mission statement I wrote more than 25 years ago. When my days on earth are finished and I stand in front of the Lord I hope He will say, “Well done.” Success for me will be defined by placing Him first, loving my family, making my work place better in a productive and personal sense and staying true to who I am. The following are things I believe have helped me live a life in which I can look back and say I’m happy, content and would not trade my life with anyone, for anything.1. Love God. I’ve had experiences in life that let me know in my deepest soul that there is a God. My love for Him and living as He would desire is far from perfect. But, I’ve come to realize He doesn’t love me any more when I succeed or any less because I make mistakes. That made more sense to me after Abigail came along. I would not love her more because she did certain things nor would I love her less if she did things I disagreed with. I love her, period. So it is with God and that frees me to be who I am, accept myself – the good, the bad and all that’s in between – and enjoy who I am.2. Place others ahead of yourself. When it comes to family, the more you can put them ahead of yourself the happier you will be. I don’t believe we do this in some sort of self-denial, “woe is me” way. You do this because when you truly love someone, you want the best for them. It brings me joy to be able to give to Jane and Abigail. When you see the giving as your reward, you realize your capacity to love is unlimited! We’re to love all people and that’s tougher because it doesn’t come as naturally but I do find more joy when I truly care for and give to others.3. Choose your thoughts. When it comes to family and others, what we choose to focus on makes a tremendous difference. There is good and bad in everyone and everything. The good new is, humans can choose where to place their thoughts. Viktor Frankl’s book Man’s Search for Meaning, written about his experiences in surviving the Holocaust, drove this home for me. Recognizing this means I can choose not to focus on the bad and fix my thoughts on the good instead. The more I do this, the easier it is to like other people. When they sense I genuinely like them they begin to respond in kind and everyone is better off.4. Love what you do. I know it sounds clichéd, but it’s true. When you love what you do your reward comes daily. When I think back to my bodybuilding, marathon running and taekwondo days, one thing in common with each was that I loved training. The goals of a bodybuilding contest, running a marathon or a black belt test were just reasons to train harder. But I realize it was easy because I wasn’t training for the prize, I was training because I loved what I was doing and those goals helped me get even more out of something that already brought me so much satisfaction. 5. A little bit over a long period. Steven Covey talked about the law of the land; that you can’t plant a crop and expect it to grow in a day. That natural process cannot be circumvented. So it is with most things in life in which we want to succeed. I learned early on with weightlifting that diligent effort over a long time paid dividends. I saw that with my studies in college and I see it today with my approach to Influence PEOPLE. Success rarely happens overnight. Muhammad Ali said as much; “The fight is won or lost far away from witnesses – behind the lines, in the gym, and out there on the road, long before I dance under those lights.” If you love what you do it makes the process more bearable. 6. Work hard.Nothing comes easy and loving what you do and doing it for a long time won’t cut it if you don’t give it your all. There’s simply no substitute for hard work. Going to the gym, dojo, hitting the road, or studying, all require real effort. I never aspired to be “the best” because I knew what my time and physical limitations were. Within the parameters I set, I aspired to be “the best I could be” and most of the time I felt accomplished that.7. Cut yourself some slack. There will come a day when our time is up. Don’t use up precious time and energy living in regret or beating yourself up for not being more than you are. You’re not perfect and never will be. If you happen to attain the highest heights and are considered “the best” at what you do it’s likely to be short lived. Just look at sports champions. The more you can accept yourself – short comings and all – the more you’ll be able to accept others and that leads to healthy relationships.These are just a few thoughts on what I believe has helped me get where I am today. I’m happy and content. I realize many people cannot say either, let alone both. I hope what I’ve shared gives you pause for thought and perhaps helps you move closer to happiness and contentment. Brian Ahearn, CMCT® Chief Influence Officer influencePEOPLE Helping You Learn to Hear “Yes”.Cialdini “Influence” Series! Would you like to learn more about influence from the experts? Check out the Cialdini “Influence” Series featuring Cialdini Method Certified Trainers from around the world.
Lyrical Emotion
For most people, listening to music often times triggers strong emotional reactions, whether positive or negative. But what if this weren’t the case for everyone?
A recent study featured in Science World Report and conducted by researchers at the University of Barcelona and Catalonia’s Bellvitge Institute of Biological Investigation, set out to investigate why some people just can’t seem to get their everyday enjoyment out of music.
The study entitled Dissociation between Musical and Monetary Reward Responses in Specific Musical Anhedonia was recently published in Current Biology and involved a web questionnaire while having participants listen to music. Participants responded with “like”, “don’t like” or “no affect” by pressing a button.
The results? Surprisingly, the researchers found that some people “didn’t respond at all to the music”, said researcher Josep Marco. Researchers determined that these individuals may be suffering from what’s scientifically referred to as specific musical anhedonia.
Researchers estimate that approximately 1 to 5 people are affected by this symptom, but also stress that it is not an illness that needs to be fixed.
“The identification of these individuals could be very important to understanding the neural basis of music – that is, to understand how a set of notes (is) translated into emotions,” Marco said in a separate statement, according to the organization.
More information regarding the study can be found via the journal Current Biology.
The Positive Effects of Detecting Lies from Training to Recognize Behavioral Anomalies
What’s the latest research news in detecting lies with behavioral anomalies?
You asked and Humintell has answered
Presupposing that clues to deception do exist (which science has proven), an important question is whether individuals in general can be trained to improve their ability to detect lies via training tools.
Drs. David Matsumoto and Hyisung Hwang along with colleagues Dr. Mark Frank and Lisa Skinner researched that question but took a closer look at Law Enforcement Officers (LEO’s) who’s job description includes deducing truths from lies.
They examined the question whether training in both verbal and nonverbal indicators of truth telling and lying would have positive effects on Law Enforcement Officer’s (LEO’s) ability to evaluate truth from lies.
Their results, “The Positive Effects of Detecting Lies from Training to Recognize Behavioral Anomalies“, were published in the Journal of Police and Criminal Psychology.
All trainees were from the Federal Bureau of Investigation’s (FBI) National Academy (NA) located in Quantico, VA. The FBI NA is a professional course of study for U.S. and international law enforcement leaders that serves to improve the administration of justice in police departments and agencies in the U.S. and elsewhere.
The researchers noted that even despite the fact that two major sources of indicators exist (Statement Analysis & Nonverbal Behavior), training programs typically focus only on one or the other. In reality both co-occur simultaneously, especially in face-to-face interactions but even when interviewees are alone writing statements.
Therefore, LEO’s should be trained in both techniques to ensure better accuracy at predicting truths and lies.
Procedures used:
Participants were tested in their ability to accurately detect lies via a pre and post training using truthful and deceptive videos of mock crimes and opinions. It is important to note that the participants were ONLY tested in scientifically validated methods of deducing truths from lies such as Statement Analysis and Nonverbal Behaviors (SA & NVB). Over a 10 week period for a total of 22 instructional hours, they were then provided with college level training on validated verbal and nonverbal indicators of truth telling and lying (SA & NVB).
Statement Analysis focuses on not only a person’s verbal recounting of an event (pauses, errors in speech etc) but also on their written recollection of an event as well (Undeutsch, 1989). Nonverbal Behavior (NVB) is when there are conflicting thoughts and feelings that occur when a person is lying. These often leak out despite attempts to control them (i.e. micro and subtle expressions).
An important note is that all trainees completed all tests individually and independently of each other, not in groups with any discussion.
The researchers used a variety of training tools: From lecture/discussions, web-based exercises, video review exercises and role playing. Exercises specific to nonverbal behavior were facial expression of emotion training (web-based) and verbal cues such as pitch, pauses, and speech errors (videos of interviews).
Results indicated:
Interesting results were that there was a marginally significant truth bias that existed at pre-test; training. Accuracy improved for videos of mock crimes but not for opinions. A substantial proportion of the variance in accuracy scores was accounted for by improvement from pre- to post. Therefore, this study purports that training in nonverbal and verbal indicators has positive effects on law enforcement officer’s ability to delineate truths from lies.
The training effect size for Crime videos, in fact, was substantially large, with a 25% increase in accuracy rates. These latter findings speak to the effectiveness of the training to the most relevant types of lies LEOs deal with. The findings did support the existence of a modest truth bias in the trainees at pre-test, replicating previous similar findings (Feeley et al.1995; Levine et al.1999; Masip et al. 2009b).
Limitations of the Study:
1. This study was not conducted without limitations, perhaps the largest of which was the lack of a control group. Given that the training occurred within classes offered at the FBI NA, it was logistically impossible to include a wait-list or placebo control or comparison group.
2. The small number of videos used in the pre- and post-tests and their brevity, and the fact that the trainees were mere observers of the interaction and did not have the freedom to question the interviewees themselves.
Other studies in the literature have suggested that just increasing the amount of active processing of verbal and nonverbal behaviors can lead to improvements in accuracy judgments regardless of having been trained to identify valid indicators of truth and lies (Bond et al. 2004; Levine, et al. 1999).
To test whether this may have accounted for increases in the accuracy rates observed in this study, they examined the amount of time trainees spent completing the pre- and post-tasks, considering the time spent as a proxy for active processing. Across the entire sample the time spent by the trainees did not differ between the pre- and post-tests. These data suggested that the improvements in accuracy rates did not occur because of increases in active processing of the stimuli.
Summation:
Identifying valid behavioral anomalies that indicate truth telling and lying–both verbal and non-verbal – can be an incredibly useful aid for any investigator.
Recognizing behavioral anomalies in Verbal and NVB can not only aid investigators in detecting lies more accurately; they can also be used as aids during interviews and interrogations to help the investigator gain insights about the personality, motivation, and internal conflicts of their interviewees, and to identify meaningful content areas of the interview that deserve further exploration and discovery.
Using behavioral anomalies to evaluate truthfulness and detect lies in investigative interviewing is not a silver bullet that will solve every case. As always interviews and interrogations need to be augmented by other sources of evidence such as witness statements and forensics.
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