By guest blogger Eric Goulard

Eric Goulard is a nonverbal and body language expert as well as Humintell’s France affiliate.  He offers online education and resources in the field of non-verbal communication through his website Non-Verbal.info.  Below he offers some insightful comments accompanied by telling pictures. 

Perfect Harmony in Gestures

Many people think that as adults they are good, if not great, at managing their emotions but is that really the case?

How equipped are you at managing your emotions? 

According to PsychCentral  many of us don’t really know how to regulate beyond simply distracting ourselves from the problem.  Author of The Emotional Toolkit, Darlene Mininni Ph.D. states,

We often turn to the strategies we know. If you’re a man, you might distract yourself by playing video games, tinkering with your tools or drinking alcohol, she points out.  If you’re a woman, you might shop or eat.

The good news is that distracting yourself sometimes is not bad.  It’s when we turn to these “strategies” most times that coping with real emotions becomes a problem. “Emotions send us important messages and help us connect with others and accomplish great things,” Mininni purports.

Decoding Your Emotions according to Mininni:

1.  Understand what you are Really Feeling? Anxiety, Sadness, Anger, Happiness.

2. Identify the message of the emotion:  Why am I afraid, How have my values been attacked, What have I lost (sadness)? etc.

3.  Cope with Emotions by Taking Action:  That is is there anything you can do to solve the situation even if it is onlyt baby steps to your goal. What if there is no action you can take?

Mininni suggests meditating, getting social support and or seeking therapy.

 What are some strategies you use to manage your emotions?

A related article by RedOrbit delves into the emotional impact of drinking more specifically of social drinking.  It suggests that alcohol has an emotionally positive impact on us.

The new study conducted by researchers from the University of Pittsburgh, which will be published in the journal of Psychological Science suggests that a moderate amount of alcohol enhances a person’s positive emotions and relieves them of negative emotions in social settings.

Unlike past studies, this study focuses on alcohol consumption in social settings and notes that moderate doses of alcohol in group settings has the opposite effect than the negative impact moderate drinking has on a man or woman who drink in isolation.

Michael A. Sayette, lead author of the study and a psychology professor at the university’s Kenneth P. Dietrich School of Arts and Sciences, said, “We felt that many of the most significant effects of alcohol would more likely be revealed in an experiment using a social setting.”

Participants consumed a total of three drinks during a span of 36-minutes, and the researchers recorded video of each session. The duration and sequence of each subject’s facial and speech behaviors was “systematically coded frame by frame using FACS and Grouptalk (a model for speech behavior).

“By demonstrating the sensitivity of our group formation paradigm for studying the rewarding effects of alcohol, we can begin to ask questions of great interest to alcohol researchers — Why does alcohol make us feel better in group settings? Is there evidence to suggest a particular participant may be vulnerable to developing a problem with alcohol?” Sayette added.

Do you find social drinking to have positive or negative effects?